I’ve learned that an important lesson in life is to work hard to protect your inner peace at all times. Besides any turmoil that could occur within one’s family, or self struggle that comes with maturity, there are ways that you can limit external drama from infiltrating your life. The easiest way to protect your happiness and succeed in life is to be very selective of the people with whom you give your time. It is said that you are the average of the five closest people to you. Let’s work on improving your average, by going through a list of 5 people to avoid to protect your inner peace.
I cannot stress the importance of upholding a positive outlook as much as possible. Not only does it make your daily life more enjoyable, but spending time with a negative person can take a toll on your mental health.
There is a lot to be said about noticing the signs of a negative person (to come). prolonged time with a person who exhibits a negative outlook on life will eventually start to cloud your judgement. It can change your outlook on things that once seemed possible, and beneficial from your perspective.
As natural empaths, the problems and beliefs of others can actually rub off on us, as we want to be understanding of others.
People who take from you
Do you have that specific acquaintance that seems to reach out whenever they need or want a favor from you? When you need them, do they ever show up? These people are called takers, and to me, are the worst type of people to associate with.
They expect things to be done for them upon their request, because they do not have many people in their lives who tell them no. The lack of reciprocation in this kind of relationship often leaves us feeling drained, used, and even a little sad.
That is because the energy that we work so hard to replenish and ration everyday has been used as a source of momentary fulfillment on the part of the taker.
Avoid them at all costs! It is easy to notice when someone is a taker because after you withdraw from this person, they simply move on to the next victim, and won’t bother to reach out to you.
Immature does not always mean younger. They come in all ages, from different walks of life.
Some examples of immature people are:
- People who enjoy arguing
- Those who lack the ability to “code switch” when necessary
- People who lie and gossip
- Code Switch: The modifying of one’s behavior, appearance, etc., to adapt to different sociocultural norms. (Dictionary.com)
You need people in your life who will hold you accountable for your actions and choices. People who lack maturity cannot provide this for you, and thus, you will most likely spend your precious time with them on trivial matters.
While this is not ALWAYS a negative thing (we all have friends in different life stages), maturity can prove to be a roadblock, and create a fork in the road of your relationship when it comes time to start taking steps towards a serious life goal.
These people can be some of the worst that you could ever provide your time to. While some of them may mean well and worry for your future(ex: your parents), most times, naysayers do not want to see the people around them elevate.
This could stem from fear, or jealousy, both of which are highly contagious! Some examples of key phrases that naysayers use:
- That’s really risky, are you sure about that?
- You know insert goal here is not safe
- That idea has such a small chance of profitability, why bother?
- I know a guy who tried ____insert goal ___here and he failed miserably
Phrases like the ones above are used to plant seeds of doubt into your mind, and can even be subconscious as opposed to malicious. No matter the reasoning behind a naysayers attitude, it can make you stagnant in your goals.
This can play a lot into maturity. Hanging around these type of people is the quickest way to manifest negativity in your life. Most people with a functioning conscience have a threshold of negative energy that they can expel before it has an effect on them.
It is the same for being witness to someone who is just nasty to those around you. Behavior like this is simply not necessary, cool, or cute (you name it). How does it serve you?
What are your thoughts?
There are many people that should be avoided when protecting your inner peace, but these five are the ones who could seem normal and harmless in your everyday life, and then before you know it, you’re picking up bad habits from them.
Let me know of some people that you had to steer clear from to be a happier person. Thanks for reading.